Craig and I are opposites in almost every way. It's what makes him so interesting to me. He is a shy white Mormon introvert with extrinsic motivators with an academic background. I am a Mexican that's been white washed, and never been raised religious, extroverted, and am intrinsically and extrinsically motivated…& I also love makeup. That was unnecessary but I'm dramatic and adding things just so you get a feel for who I am, in case we're not friends. Also, I'd love to be friends. Back to the blog thing I'm doing. We’re yin and yang. And… we like our free time to be spent in opposite ways. I like being busy, and not having any.. And he loves gaming and being in his bedroom for 97 hours straight and never leaving the house. That stresses me out. I have to leave the house, on average.. Once a day. He.. would prefer never to do that. Well, so when we need to run errands and such, or I need to socialize and feel happy inside… it stresses him out. The anxiety gets to him. I have to space it out, and do it methodically, or alone. And, alone is weird for me. I’d rather spend every second with him possible.. If it’s in line at the DMV.. then sobeit. I’ll do whatever mundane task us adults are so not happy about, but I’ll literally be happy if he is with me.
Anyway, sometimes we need to alter our schedule. We both work until 6, and quite often, I work later, leaving a lot of our time to run mundane errands, to be for the weekend. While we try to leave after work for relaxing, that leaves a lot of things for Saturdays and Sundays. Now, in Craig’s upbringing and the church have taught him that Sundays are for Family things that do NOT involve money. For me, I don’t get it. I don’t understand why someone would feel closer to God if they spend money on a Monday instead of securing someone's job by going in and making sure they have a reason to be there on a Sunday. Sundays are for church… and nothing else? Apparently this is a commandment. The 4th one to be exact. I get that they don’t do this stuff. The shopping on Sundays, the going out and doing things, that cost, etc… and it’s never bothered me until I had to figure out how I can not do things on a Sunday.. When it isn't something I agree with. Does that make sense? I literally don’t understand why they (Mormons) think that spending money on a Sunday is a bad thing. I counter almost everything they say. Well, we don’t want to make people work on a Sunday. Ok.. but.. What if that place lays that person off, and that person is out of a job just because Mormons don’t shop on Sundays? What if that person is a single mom, and specifically chose this job because it allows her to get an extra shift in on Sundays, that another job just can’t afford? What if something that would normally take 2 hours on a Monday after work, or during lunch break, takes 30 min on a Sunday? It just seems logical to use this advantage right? It doesn’t make sense to me how this would strengthen your relationship with your higher power. I may never. BUT… I try to sit back, and when it means something to me, or we need to due to our schedules this week, I make my argument and hope for the best. I respect if he doesn’t want to, as long as it’s something I can reschedule. He’s being more flexible lately. I think he’s starting to get it. Just wish I could get it back. Sometimes, I wanna feel what he feels. Then other times, it seems like the cons outweigh the pros. Why is Sunday so sacred? Why’s it Sunday and not Saturday? The measurement of time is a man made construct. So… why are we choosing that day and say a “God” did?
